May Your New Year Be Revolting

Instead of making this new year a continuation of your same old typical routine (make lame resolutions, trudge along and settle), why not try something a little different...and possibly better?

Make it revolting.

Yes, that sounds strange.  But think of it this way:

Life changes.  Your lifestyle choices should change along with your continuously refining priorities and preferences.  You are not the same person you were 10 years ago - or even last year.  Why continue with the same (tired) approach to planning/living out your life? 

Instead, try taking a stand and revolting against anything that is holding you back from achieving your true potential!  Get righteously indignant!!  Be bold!!

Try something (ANYthing!) you've never tried.  This year, refuse to go through the motions of the usual New Year's Resolutions - and commit to a New Year's REVOLUTION!

Let go of the fear of failure and leap into something with a beginner's learning attitude.  (When was the last time you actually learned something NEW?)  Let go of being the poised, mature adult and experiment in a brand new arena.  Pick something you've always wanted to try, but "haven't gotten around to".  In fact, PLAN/TAKE ACTION on exploring things you haven't even considered.  You may discover a talent or interest you never knew - because you never experimented with that topic/hobby/pastime before.

Think of what amazing experiences are out there just waiting for you to take action!  The world is BURSTING with possibilities!  The Internet alone allows you access to limitless options.  Imagine what you can achieve!

But it all begins with YOU.  Are you willing to start a revolution this year?  You may find your efforts become the catalyst for that breakthrough you've been hungering for all these years.

Think about it.  But more importantly, do something about it...today!

Finding and Aligning To Your Purpose

I often get asked what the most important thing I've learned from spending 3 decades at Disney and other Fortune 500 companies.  Here is my answer - and a practical tool you can use toward the end:

Many thoughtlessly say that "Less is more".  This is not true.  More is more.  But that isn't the point.  Because "more" is not always better.  Better is better.  Period.

So, how do you make your life better?  By NOT wasting time on things that don't add value to you.  You've been settling for FAR too long - and with the new year approaching, this is a good time to prepare for your long-overdue breakthrough!

So, where do you begin?  How do you identify what "better" is for your life?

The complication is that Life gets full of distractions when we aren't crystal clear on our purpose and we end up saying "yes" to things that eat up our time and don't fully serve who we really are.

The proven solution is to get more focused on what you (a unique person with a unique purpose) should uniquely be doing to realize the unique reasons you are alive.  The challenge with this (and the reason more people aren't successfully living the life of their dreams) is that it requires the combination of THREE things:

• What are you good at (your "natural" talents)?
• What do you love (your passions that make you happy to lose track of time)?
• What does the world need (and values enough to pay for)?

Take some time to clearly identify these three things.  Discuss with people that know you well and want you to be healthy, happy, and successful. When you can identify where these three areas overlap and take action to focus most/all your time there, I promise, you will see everything in your life get much better.  

Finally, when do you begin?  "Now" is almost ALWAYS the best time to start your breakthrough chapter.

Think about it.  But more importantly, do something about it...today!

If You Can't Get Out Of It, Get Into It!

Life is FULL of things that we wish we didn't have to deal with. 

The question is: If this (painful) action is truly inevitable, then what can you do to minimize your suffering?

According to the most successful/happiest people, once you have exhausted any creative attempts to resolve the situation, the most logical next step is to simply accept that the uncomfortable experience will be happening.  Once you overcome any denial, there are actually TWO options that put you more in control of the negative situation, and can help make the most of it:

The first is: Initiate the action as soon as possible to get through it quickly.  This approach allows you to get the pain over faster.  Why put off dealing with it?  No sane person enjoys pain, and putting it off only adds more suffering.  The dread of anticipation actually magnifies the pain and prolongs it.  The wiser approach is to "rip off the bandaid" rather than drag it out.  The sooner you start, the sooner you finish.  Plus, you avoid all the painful "angst time" as a bonus!

The second is: Find/create enjoyment in the midst of it.  As bizarre as it sounds, this is actually pragmatic.  Minimizing the damage from a negative experience is a self-preservation effort.  Focusing your attention to any beneficial aspects of the situation - whether it is bittersweet "good for you" value or actual enjoyment of some kind - is better than the alternative.  Once you have learned your lesson, any additional suffering is a waste of time and unnecessary pain.  Again, pragmatic and logical.

The good news is that you can use BOTH tactics in every situation.  But it requires the courage and discipline to boldly take that first step.  Take control.  Be accountable.  Face life head-on - and you will have a better life as a result.

Think about it.  But more importantly, do something about it...today!

What Are You Proof Of?

In business and in Life, we eventually get down to a fundamental question: What do you REALLY believe?

This is a deceptively complicated question.  We all have a set of basic concepts about life that we claim to believe.  But do you really believe them?  How do you know?  It is rare (VERY rare!) that a person will actually go through the difficult - and risky - process of examining the answer to this question.  Despite the wise and timeless truth that the unexamined life wasn't worth living.

So how do you know whether or not you believe something?  The same way that others know whether or not you believe something: Your behaviors!

When we truly believe something, our behaviors consistently reflect that belief.  If someone claimed to believe in gravity, yet consistently clung in fear to fixed objects to keep from floating into space, any observer would have doubts about those claims.  Behaviors follow beliefs.

When we start to believe a new concept (whether that you can or that you cannot), our behaviors change accordingly.  If you believe something - REALLY believe something - you act accordingly.

What do we call someone who believes one thing and then does another?  Clinically, it is termed "mentally disturbed".  Commonly, it is called "a lack of integrity".  Either way, it is unhealthy - and should be unacceptable.

Make a gutsy move: Ask others what they think you believe.  (Be prepared, you may get a shock!)  Your values are leaking out as your behaviors.

Gut check: Consider a values-based cause you claim to support/believe in - such as "love for your family" or "commitment to your company" or "dedication to your spiritual beliefs" and then answer this BIG question:  Is there enough proof to convict you in a court of law that you, without a doubt, believe in that cause?  In other words, do your behaviors prove to anyone observing you that you truly believe what you claim to believe in?

Think about it.  But more importantly, do something about it...today!

Safety Net or Hammock?

Preparing for a future that is never really known (until it is the present) can be a risky venture.  Putting back-up plans and "just in case" support mechanisms in place is a good idea to mitigate that risk.  After all, safety (and personal/organizational health) is important.

But we need to be careful about being too careful.

People often create a safety net of contingency plans that slowly, over time becomes a hammock of comfortable (low-risk) settling.  Playing it too safe, too often, is not healthy.  In fact, it actually becomes dangerous - which is, ironically, the very thing we set out to avoid.  What is originally intended as a safety net can (if we're not vigilant) become a hammock - that can lull you into complacency.  Which leads to a dull, listless life of settling.

There is a saying: "If you hit the target every time, you are too close to the target".  Growth requires challenging our abilities and capabilities. 

When was the last time you attempted to do something important to you where you had less than a 50/50 chance of success?  That always generates a higher level of focus, creativity, and effort...and growth!
So, what do you want - dynamic growth or letting yourself get sucked into a hammock of mediocrity?

Think about it.  But more importantly, do something about it...today!

Inspiration or Irritation?

There are THOUSANDS of leadership books out there all spouting off about how, if you want to be a good leader, you must be a role model of excellence, quality, integrity, etc.  When done well, embodying these traits can be a faith-building source of encouragement.

But is it possible to over-do it?

In other words, are your efforts to be an excellent role model inspiring...or irritating?

When someone - even a role model - is not relatable, it can actually put off members of your team instead of engaging them.  Being completely competent in your behaviors is only half of the requirement of being a leader.  Unless there is a relationship with your team, your "good example" efforts can be seen as distancing you from their "mere mortal" results.

The solution?  Be a role model of humility.  Be a role model of honesty.  Be "real".  Share (appropriately) your shortcomings, your pain and concerns - in a way that they can identify with withOUT undermining their confidence in your or the journey you are all jointly traveling.  This will help them see that you are experiencing the same "reality" that they are challenged with - and you are choosing to strategically persevere and have a positive attitude through it all.  Just like they can.

So they continue following you and everyone benefits. 

Just a natural consequence of NOT being irritating - and, instead, being an inspirational leader.

Think about it.  But more importantly, do something about it...today!

Being A Sore...Winner?

No one wants to be a "sore loser" - a term we've all heard since childhood.  It describes a person who is hurt because they lost.

I'm in the midst of a big move - daily lugging heavy boxes (thousands of books!) and other assorted heavy items - and I've been sore every day for the past 3 weeks.  As the muscles throughout my body scream in revolt, something occurred to me:

Have you ever thought of anyone being a "sore winner"? 

Winners achieve as a result of hard work.  Hard work stretches your abilities.  This is why winners who are consistently successful are constantly striving to grow and improve - keeping them on top.

The natural consequence of pushing your capabilities is pain.  It is a pain that most people are not willing to endure.  When you talk with successful people, they will admit that the sacrifices made to achieve their goals hurt, but it was worth it. 

Every winner is sore, you just won't hear them whining about it.  Even when they (temporarily) lose, they understand that it is part of the progression (investment) towards ultimately winning. An investment that requires commitment, courage, and tenacity.  It is these three things that allow a winner to face the inevitable discomfort and gut through what it takes to realize their goals.

So, in the midst of all the challenges you are facing today - are you willing to be a sore...winner?

Think about it.  But more importantly, do something about it...today!